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iftar with the mayor | August 24, 2011

Wednesday August 24th 2011 — marking his 100th day in office, Chicago Mayor Rahm Emanuel hosts a “Gathering Celebrating Iftar”

Last night, I was invited to break bread with Mayor Rahm Emanuel. It was the type of dinner that I always wanted to be at… but, never actually was invited to.

I love politics (definition: of, for or relating to citizens -Wikipedia.com). I love the people who are chosen to relate to citizens. In my ideal world, those people relate to me. They have humility, they have bad hair days, they eat Browns chicken for lunch, and they have the ability to see both sides to make sound decisions. They are sons, daughters, siblings, parents… and teachers. They are red party, blue party, green party.. they are independent thinkers. They are the hope I have in America.. yes, in change, and lastly in preservation. I accept that they make mistakes – further giving them the ability to relate to citizens.

At last nights Iftar with the mayor, I was seated next to President & CEO of the Chicago Community Trust. After a few minutes of telling each other what our professions were – I told him what I really felt I was doing.. and that was this blog. Yes, I am in advertising by day… but my soul is present in these posts in every moment. Yes, I love having a job at the #1 radio station in Chicago, but there is nothing I would love more than to get to the bottom of what drives interpersonal relationships between men and women — more specifically.. to understand why I don’t have a man yet, and what turn of events will lead to me meeting my ultimate goal of having a family.

Mr Big-Wig asked me if the blog had bought me any luck. I told him I felt like I was still in school, and studying for some exam- but no, I had not yet aced out of the program. He explained how “transparency” of government dealings and documents is a hot button in his career right now,  and I revealed my thoughts on internet dating sites- and how so much “transparency” or “information” can be harmful in a process. I firmly believe online dating has driven up the “ready to marry” age by a couple of years. I went into how online dating drags out every relationship – and how difficult it has been for me to trust people I meet from any dating websites. Every single person I have met from an online dating source (with the exception of one) has been dishonest in some way- in a way that I makes me feel less interested in the person. I shared my learnings about dating muslim men vs non-muslim men… and some things that surprised me about both.

Mr Big-Wig also shared. He told the story about how he met the love of his life, his Wife. He told me the 1st thing he saw was her eyes… and he was done. He was in love… the kind that he knew was soulful and would last a lifetime. He had no clue whate shape the journey would take.. and is so pleased, after 21 years, it’s still going. Mr Big-Wig complimented my eyes, and said he was sure someone would feel that way about me… I thanked him, and told him I was waiting for someone to see me. Actually see me. Not the packaging I come in.. but the me that I feel I am, and the me that I want to grow to be. I can’t wait! I see that love that is possible, and how a man describes knowing he “was done” from the moment he laid eyes on his wife -and I want that to be my story.

Can’t help it, I believe in fairy tale endings. Hey, I made it to the Mayor’s dinner…. I know I can make it to dinner with the man of my dreams too!